Clearing Out Clutter by Steve Andreas
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From time to time, we need to iterate over the accumulation of things to make room for what we want to keep. However, many people find it very difficult. Maybe you want to learn a ridiculously simple trick to make it easier?
When most people do this, they go through their closet full of clothes, drawer full of socks, or shelf full of books, and try to decide what they don’t want. While this seems very logical and simple, there are several reasons why it is not the best way to complete the task.
Imagine that you went to the grocery store to buy some food and you were focused on what you don’t want. Pause for a moment to visualize how you are actually doing this in your mind to see what this buying method is like for you. … … …
Doesn’t that seem a little backward? Now, imagine that you are shopping as usual, focusing on what you really want. … … …
Whether you have a list of things you’ve already decided what you want, or you look around to see what attracts you (or both), focusing on what you really want is much easier. and easier.
There are probably only a few things you really want, and a huge number of things you don’t. If you were focused on eliminating what you don’t want, it would take you a lot longer, because there is so much more that you have to process.
You only have a certain amount of attention; if you are focused on what you don’t want, you have much less attention to what you want, and you may even lose it completely, which is what happens with paranoia.
Perhaps most importantly, if you are focused on what you don’t want, you will have feelings that accompany thinking about those things. These feelings are likely to be much less pleasant than those you experience when you think about what you really want. Try this in your imagination. First, think about the food you don’t want, and then think about the food you really want.
Which feels better? If you think about what you really want, you will feel better and you will probably continue to shop. But if you have feelings that accompany thoughts of all those things you don’t want, you will probably quit soon so you can feel better!
So far, I’ve written about what you want and what you don’t want. But there is another category of things that is even larger than both combined; things you don’t really care about anyway— “Mister in between.” When you focus your attention on what you really want, it’s all ignored along with everything you don’t want.
To summarize, if you are deciding what to buy from the store, it makes a lot more sense to focus on what you really want rather than what you don’t want. It’s also much easier to do, because it’s harder for us to handle negatives like “do not”.
Now let’s go back to the task of sorting accumulations to decide what you want to keep. All of the factors I mentioned above are equally true when you want to understand the material. If you focus on what you don’t want, it’s harder, less straightforward, it takes longer and it’s frustrating, so you’ll probably give up soon and do something else — maybe berating yourself for being sloppy and “ lack of willpower “or” lack of persistence. ”
How can we apply the way we naturally and effectively acquire things to the task of dropping things?
This is absurdly simple: completely empty this cabinet, drawer or bookshelf and put everything that was in there somewhere else. Now imagine that these are items in the store, and you can choose from them what you want — absolutely free! Now go through it to decide what you want to keep and discard the rest.
There is an added benefit to this way of sorting things out to simplify and streamline your surroundings. If you were to succeed in what most people do — by focusing on what you don’t want and dropping it, you would still have everything that is meaningless to you … ”But choosing what you really want out of this heap of things, all “Mister in between” things remain in the heap to be discarded.
If you are someone who likes to keep “in between” things around for a while in case it might be useful, put it in a box and date it. If you haven’t reviewed it after a period of time — perhaps six months or a year — quickly review it to make sure there is nothing you want to keep, then dispose of it.
Another little trick I use is to think about who would be happy to have things that I discard. Even if I don’t use it, it might be important to someone else; the thought that someone else might appreciate it gives me extra pleasure at the thought of passing it on to someone else, making it even easier to let go of it.
This is just one specific application of the importance of focusing your attention on positive outcomes — what you really want, not what you don’t want — a key element of NLP and the life that works for you.
Do you have other strategies or “tricks” that make it easier for you to clean things up? If so, I welcome you to add them to this discussion.
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